While there's a long way to go, tech companies are beginning to offer increasingly generous benefits to parents and families. Lots of these benefits programs were designed for families that fit into a very 1950's box: two-parent, cis, hetero, bio, male-primary-breadwinner families. That structure isn't my reality or the reality of most of the people in my life. In this talk, I'll discuss my own experience asking prospective employers about policies relating to employees' families and children during my job search and talk about how they do and don't work for my family and other families I know. I'll also share some suggestions for how employees can get the information they need, and some tips for how employers can make their policies more clear and welcoming.