In the Fall of 2016, Facebook Messenger introduced a new phone integration feature. This feature allowed Facebook access to your call logs and text messages to allow them to surface up people you might want to connect with on Messenger–both a blessing and a curse. This gift of integration triggered a PTSD episode when it suggested my rapist as a person I might want to message. As this kind of integration and recommendation becomes common, what is our responsibility as designers and technologists to prepare people for what we might uncover?